I’m gonna be totally honest with y’all. I’ve had a really tough time finishing blogs! I’ve seemingly got no problem starting one, then another, then a new idea pops into my head, so I start a brand new blog about the topic because I’m afraid I’ll forget the ideas in my head! So I end up with several unfinished blogs and then I get myself wrapped up in a book which is my recent obsession… Or I have tons of work to do and feel guilty blogging over working on my laptop and catching up.
Pretty simple: job or blog? I doubt I need to go into more detail for that topic.
I also have difficulty being totally transparent or open with my readers if I’ve got something going on that I don’t want to write about. For example, it’s totally normal to disagree with your family, but personally, I find it super hard to concentrate on anything when I’m feeling disconnected with my spouse.
Even if I feel overall pretty happy and have a fairly positive attitude with the kids and work, but my hubs and I are not on the same page as a couple, I am distracted in general. I’ve even written a blog and felt like I couldn’t be genuinely me, because I’m not all together if something is out of whack with my partner.
I know there’s no way I would ever care to be anything but myself. Hell, I worked too hard to get where I’m at, to be someone else! I literally have no interest in being anything but completely honest in life, especially in this blog. Otherwise, what’s the point? I know people that have lied and falsified themselves their entire lives to the point that they’ve got no earthly idea who they are at all.
Can you imagine not truly knowing who you are? That’s a very sad person to be. I know a few of those people and of course I am sad for them. There’s been moments in my life that I look back at in total humiliation. While those were very humbling moments, they ended up teaching me the most about myself.
When I was in denial of my alcoholism, I became a different person as I struggled to come to the point of surrender. I look back and know that I was utterly lost in my own identity and that’s when I needed the most help to find my way back! Those moments that I see similarities to others is when I know there’s a sense of secrecy – people will do almost anything to protect their secrets!
This seems to be a trend when meeting someone that is struggling in deep denial, they usually end up admitting to whatever it is that they’re in such desperation to keep hidden. As a therapist I’ve learned to look at not just what they say, but what it is that they’re NOT saying.
This is the trick. If you’re accustomed to listening for a living, you end up hearing much more in what some don’t say at all.
On a different topic:
Here’s my sweet baby boy’s school pictures that completely fill me with joy!
xoxo 😘